Did You Abandon Your New Year’s Resolutions Too Soon? Try This First.


The beginning of the year marks a time when the vast majority of people make and then break their New Year’s resolutions. The abandonment of these resolutions often occurs around early to mid February. While many people can see this mass phenomenon as a natural failing of human motivation, some can take it harder than others. If you feel like you are experiencing symptoms of depression during this process, you might have reason to seek treatment. Always consult with licensed professionals about mental health conditions, but a loss of vigor for life after abandoning your resolutions could indicate that you are feeling depressed.

There are, however, ways to get back on track with your resolutions. We encourage everyone to set healthy expectations for themselves and try to meet their goals in reasonable ways. We have compiled the following list of 7 different methods that can help you achieve your New Year’s goals even if you got lost along the way.

  • Start Small

An easy way to keep up with your New Year’s resolutions is to start small. Approach your goals in small steps that you can build on. You will make more lasting progress through incremental change.

  • Change One Behavior at a Time

Similar to the previous step––avoid overwhelming yourself. It’s best to change behaviors one at a time. Think of your goals with a long-term view toward success.

  • Set Limits to Your Resolutions

Taking on too many resolutions can make you crash early and give up. New habits take time and sustained effort. Instead of committing to too many goals, start with what is achievable and add more as you can handle it.

  • Be Realistic

Your goals should be realistic. Don’t set yourself up for failure. Ensure that each goal you make is attainable.

  • Remember that Change is a Process

Be patient with yourself. Mistakes and motivation less days will happen. No one is perfect. Working towards your resolutions is a process that takes time. Committing to a change in behavior is a hard thing to do and you need to allow yourself to see both the failures and the successes as part of the process.

  • Stick with It

Experts say it takes twenty-one days for a new activity to become a habit and six months for it to become part of your personality. Persistence pays off if you can keep with it.

  • Don’t Beat Yourself Up

It is normal to slip up when trying something new. When this happens, don’t beat yourself up about it. Focus on getting past the problem without creating an unhealthy relationship between you and your goals.

If you have tried all of these steps and still find yourself getting stuck, ask yourself if there might be a mental health impediment (such as depression) that is holding you back. Sometimes extra help can be needed to get you to your goals. TMS treatment has been known to help with some types of depression. If you would like to find out more about what we offer, call (314) 909-8487 to talk through your options.